Two Ways To Belong In America Essay, Research Paper

The topic that I choose is ?Two Ways to belong in America". My personal

experiences with different culture and Bharati’s relationship with her sister

are very similar to my own; however I have different experiences in the marriage

and feelings of belonging. Bharati and I have one obvious similarity, which is

coming from a different culture outside United States. She was born and grew up

in India. She came to the U.S. after she graduated from university of Calcutta.

I was born and grew up in Egypt, and came to the U.S. after I graduated from

University of Alexandria. In India the maim language is English because there

are so many languages and the main custom in clothe is Sarie. In Egypt the main

language is Arabic and the second language is English. The clothes are very much

like here on the U.S. except in the holidays most people like to wear the

traditional clothes. Bharati?s observation on the relationship between sisters

is similar to my own experiences. She states, ?Mira and I have stayed sisterly

close by phone. In our regular Sunday morning conversations, we are unguardedly

affectionate? (341). This is one of my main weaknesses. I have my sister who

lives in Egypt and I always call her every two weeks. We talk about everything

and anything. I like to know what is going on with her life and she likes to

know what is going on with my life too. Although my experience in the way I got

married is similar to Bharati, which is marrying the American way, my personal

experience with marriage is different from the author?s. She stayed happily

married, maybe because she married a person who is on the same level of

education as her. She said, ?I married a fellow student, an American of

Canadian parentage? (341). For me I was not happily married and I am a single

mother now. I think that is because I married a person who is different from me

in so many ways. In the beginning I thought he was the one, but after marriage

the wax melted and the real him appeared. One of the main problem I could not

get over was how he left five kids behind him and not even an ounce of guilt in

his consciousness. Another difference between the author?s experience and my

experience is the way of belonging. She said, ?I need to feel like a part of

the community I have adopted ( as I tried to feel in Canada as well)? (342).

Bharati and I differ, because I have been moving around so many times it is so

hard for me to feel connected and then move again. This feeling started in Egypt

and I have had hard time getting over it. Although I was born in Egypt, the

authorities did not consider me as an Egyptian. So I had been always treated as

an outsider even though I had obeyed all the rules, I had paid my taxes, and I

loved my work and my neighbors. I loved my Egyptian friend that I made. Then I

moved to Yemen and I lived there for 6 years. I really loved the people their,

and my best friend but I always had been treated as a foreign person. I think

that is why it is so hard for me to feel belong.