Long Distance Relationship And How To Make It Work Essay, Research Paper

Long Distance Relationship and How To Make It Work

Dear Love Lady,

I have a love problem and I don’t know what to do. I am a freshman in

college and so is my boyfriend. We have been together since our senior year in

high school, and we are very much in love. But, since we’ve been at college, we

have developed a problem. We don’t see each other from month to month. You see,

we go to colleges in completely different states. We have always lived on the

same street, but now we are so far apart. I don’t even know if it will work, or

better yet how to make it work. Any advice? Sad and In Love, Atlanta, GA

Dear Sad and In Love,

Well, it sounds as if you have a great thing if you can just stick with

it. As a matter of fact, I have been in a situation just like yours. My

boyfriend and I had just the same problem back when we were in college, and we

made it work. We are now happily married with two beautiful children. So, I

think I can give you a few pointers on how to keep your love going. You are

going to have to have three important things to make it work though. Those

things are trust, communication and patience.

First and the most important, you and your boyfriend need to have trust

in each other. In every relationship there has to be trust, but for some reason,

in long-distance relationships, it seems like there has to be just a little

something more. Since you two are so far apart, you have to trust that the

other one only wants to be with you and no one else. What I would always do,

when I didn’t know if I should do something that might be bad for our

relationship, is I would put myself on the other end of the situation. I would

pretend that it was my boyfriend doing it and then I would think of how I would

feel if he did it. If you would get upset about it, than 10 times out of 10 so

would he.

There has to be trust in every important relationship, a relationship

won’t last if there are doubts on either end. Always trust that your boyfriend

is being honest with you and always be honest with him.

The next thing a long-distance relationship needs is communication.

Good communication is a MUST! You and your boyfriend have to have open lines of

communication. If something is bothering one of you, you must tell the other

how you are feeling. If you don’t be open the other will never know what you

are thinking or if there is a problem. Unless of course you can read minds.

Just kidding! There shouldn’t be secrets kept from one another and if there are

open communication lines, it will avoid any types of problems.

Another aspect of communication that is important is expressing your

feelings. If you are missing your boyfriend a lot one day, tell him. It will

make him feel good to know that you are thinking of him and need him. By

expressing your feelings, it will keep the relationship open and honest. And

also add a little excitement for the next time you get to see each other!

You may thin that it will be hard to communicate so far away, but in all

actuality, it might be easier. One of the most popular way loved ones keep in

touch is through the computer. Many colleges today have a system that is free

to students to send e-mail. Check it out if you haven’t already! It is

sometimes easier to write your feelings rather than saying them. This is a very

effective, not to mention cheap, way to keep in touch with the one you love.

There is also writing letters and talking on the phone, but I strongly suggest

the e-mail option.

Finally, the last thing that you need to keep a relationship going is

good old fashioned patience. You won’t be able to see each other often, but

stick with it. If you truly love each other, you will be able to get through

the times when you can’t see each other. It is hard, believe me I know! But if

you hold on, it could turn into something very special.

I wish you the best of luck to you and your boyfriend. If you have

trust, communication and patience, I’m sure you’ll be able to make it work.

Keep Smiling,

The Love Lady