The Healing Process Essay, Research Paper

The Healing Process

This is a brief psychological overview of the healing process. The image of

healing is best described by Gloria Vanderbilt in “A Mother’s Story” when she

talks of breaking the invisible unbreakable glass bubble which enclosed her that

kept her always anticipating loss with echoes of all past losses. She wrote, for

example (Page 3),”Some of us are born with a sense of loss there from the

beginning, and it pervades us throughout our lives. Loss, as defined, as

deprivation, can be interpreted as being born into a world that does not include

a nurturing mother and father. We are captured in an unbreakable glass bubble,

undetected by others, and are forever seeking ways to break out, for if we can,

surely we will find and touch that which we are missing”.

This concept of healing was also described by Philip Berman in “If It Is

Not Good Make It So” as changing positively from the unhappy attitude of(Page

48) “we never got the habit of happiness as others know it. It was always as if

we were waiting for something better or worse to happen”.

Psychological theory of change suggest it is possible to heal, to break

out of the glass bubble, to develop the attitude of happiness. For example, in

“The Process of Change: Variations on a Theme by Virginia Satir says on Page 89

that “successful change-making turns out to involve struggle, necessitating

skill, tenacity and perspective”. The struggle occurs when a foreign element

produces chaos until a new integration occurs which results in a new status quo.

Kurt Lewin echoed this view in saying that an old attitude has to unfreeze, the

person experiments, a new attitude develops and a refreezing occurs.

Janis and Prochasky suggest a person starts in relative complacency, is

presented with challenging information, the person evaluates the new challenge

to habit or policy and reviews alternate policies to create a new policy or

return to the original one,

The psychological theories focus on perspective and rational thought.

The significance of the therapist is in giving a new perspective and in aiding

self-esteem in order to break down resistance to change. Otherwise, Satir

suggests people are likely to revert to their trance like state of automatic

thought and previous habits.

Maslow (1991), on the other hand, theorized that inherent in each human

is a self-actualizing instinct. This was “not merely a matter of fulfilling

one’s own particular talents; it also involves actualizing those potentialities

that one has as a human being” The key for Maslow in engaging in this process

was that of openness. People must be (Page 117) “receptive and responsive to

information from the world and from themselves. They do not repress or ignore

uncomfortable facts and problems and their view of these facts and problems is

not distorted by wishes, fears, past experiences or prejudices”. This freshness

of perspective permits spontaneity, creativity which then promotes growth.

Growth is perceived as being open to one’s self and to others which leads to

empathy.

Maslow felt that the purpose of therapy with its “unconditional positive

regard” was to lead the person to such growth and that the result would be love,

courage, creativeness, kindness and altruism. Breaking the old habits was the

key. Page 127 “To the extent that one is open, one rises above the level of an

automaton and becomes more of a creative, autonomous subject. And by these means,

openness helps give us a sense that our lives are rewarding”.

Most psychologists seem to feel therapy is paramount in the process of

change. Schoen, says for example,(Page 52) that before therapy “we are walled

off in ourselves, often with evident obstinacy, at the same time, we may puff

ourselves up, with obvious arrogance. We are in pain”. He theorizes that there

is a miracle in therapy. He says (page 53) that the act of appreciating the

person actually produces a chemical change that permits a freedom of the soul to

stop defending all the conditions that maintain it in its pain. “The new

creation is a flexible ego that can be new, fresh and express passion and

compassion from the place of a new variableness in existence” (Page 54).

Morrow and Smith describe the healing process as strengthening the

person to move beyond mere survival to wholeness and empowerment, from managing

helplessness and being overwhelmed by threatening and dangerous feelings to

problem focused strategies.(Page 32). Therapy permits the therapist to

understand that the “profusion of dysfunctional symptoms really can be seen as

rational and reasonable coping strategies”.

Bugental discusses that therapy is useful in showing how we all imprison

ourselves. He theorizes that when this recognition is deeply experienced, “the

world is already beginning to change-because the crippling element in these

definitions is the belief that they are and can be the only way one sees

them..”(Page 27)

He says we cripple ourselves by making us into objects and forgetting our

subjectivity. In therapy we learn to recognize and respect our needs, emotions,

anticipations, apprehensions and our sense of concern. But we learn not to be

dominated by them.

We learn the frightening quality of relationships, that of the lack of

control adds to the richness of relationships. We learn to invest in life and

that relinquishment can be a sign of something right not necessarily something

that has gone wrong. We learn that laws and mores are not absolutes but open to

constant revision as we are to do with our inner selves.

Psychology seems to share the ideas that a person in emotional pain is

stuck in a self made prison which can be escaped through unconditional positive

regard and a fresh perspective. What isn’t clear is how rational thought

combined with ‘love’ enters the person’s heart and soul.

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